How to tell if the person you're dating is really into you
23rd June 2010
Dating can be a difficult process as it is, let alone adding
the stress and worry of wondering if they are really into you. Although women
worry mostly about this, there are men out there who take on the stress as
well. Knowing the signs and body language that people put off will help you
better tell if your date is really into you. Here are some ways to tell if you
are someone of interest or someone they are just killing time with.
Your
date uses your name more than usual
This sounds like such a simple sign, but it can actually
mean they feel the chemistry. Men and women both will use their dates’ names
often if they are feeling a good bond being created.
Your
date asks you questions to broaden your answers
If how and why questions come up often after telling them
facts and information about yourself, they are truly interested in getting to
know you. If your replies answer their questions and they still want to know
more you can be sure they are genuine is trying to get to know you. For
example, if they ask if you have siblings and you reply with “Yes, two sisters
and a brother”, someone interested will want to know about your family as well.
Their age, occupations and whether they have children or not will be some
questions they may ask
They
are touching your shoulders and hands often
People who are really into you will tend to be more
touchy-feely during the date. This may happen by holding hands, caressing your
shoulders or arms, or even placing their hand on the small of your back. If
your date is uninterested you can definitely tell by the lack of physical
contact and even eye contact. You have to be aware of these signs so you can
either try and save the date with better conversation or activities, or call it
an early night if you are not interested as well.
Your
date’s nervous habits shine through
If your date is nervous throughout the date that usually
means they are into you. They may react by spouting off facts and information
about themselves, shaking their legs, biting their lip, or even awkwardly
laughing. If someone isn’t into you they normally won’t even care enough to be
nervous, so take the nervous reactions as a good sign.
Remember that every man and woman are different and their body language and signs may be different than others. Try to be aware of how your date is speaking and looking at you to get a good idea of their interest. If you catch them starting to drift away there are many things you can do to “save” the date. Change conversation topics, the date’s location, and if you aren’t sharing drinks you may want to have a few together to loosen up the conversation. However, try not to get too tipsy during your date.
